I'm part of a team working on Pink Shirt Day 2012 and I've just been emailed links to these two wonderful videos by young gay men who have been targets of bullying. The second is a response to the first. Both these young men thought they were unique in their experience; in fact it was common.

As I've said before, they probably have more in common with the young people who were triggered to bully them than they'll ever know, too.

It's important to understand that these guys aren't the problem. Nor are the young people who were triggered to bully them. Schools are not the breeding ground for bullying.

The problem is the bullying society we live in. The problem is that adults model to young people that it's ok to do anything to get what you want. It's ok to put others down to build yourself up. It's ok to hurt those with whom you disagree.

Bullying is an adult problem. Respect is an adult responsibility. Change is an adult imperative.