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Posted by Philip on 14 December 2012, 12:49 pm in , , , ,

For the 2012th time...

...Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.

I don't make a habit of talking up Christmas, which won't surprise those who know me well. I see it as such an unauthentic tradition, that I described to a friend yesterday as a clusterf**k of symbology, religion, capitalism and marketing, not to mention unreal expectations and awkward social situations.

You'd think we'd have gotten bored with it all after 2011 times but, no, the hype still goes on.

Let me be clear, I'm not against the holiday part of it all and the chance to relax with friends and family — that part I cherish. Also the space to reflect on past, present and future.

2012 has been a tough year for me and many in my circles. It has brought with it far too many deaths, sicknesses and disasters, too much work and more than its fair share of difficult situations. Let's hope the Mayan prophecies meant an end to at least some of that in the world.

Yet the frenetic tone has made me see some interesting dynamics in motion. The growing need for us to all accept more uncertainty, to endure hard times knowing they will come to pass, and to be supportive to one another in each others' struggles, knowing that we usually can't change things to make them better for others, sometime not even for ourselves.

But we can help each other feel less alone, just by being there. We often don't even need to do or say anything. Simply being there says, "I know it's hard." Quietly being there does a world of good.

So, as we head into the frenzy of Christmas for the 2012th time, somewhere we might notice a space to stop talking, stop rushing around and simply notice who we are with, how we are with them and, maybe even, why we have ended up here, together.

Today is my last official day working and I'll do my best to keep it that way until February next year. In the meantime enjoy the break and may 2013 be a little easier for us all.

Love and best wishes.