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What we're not saying about porn

Posted by Philip on 10 May 2017, 4:38 pm in , , , , , ,

There's a lot of moral hysteria about pornography — sorry to state the obvious. The panic targets both the industry and its main audience, young men.

 guy watching porn on laptop

Summed up, the industry exploits women and its products create bad sexual attitudes in men towards women. I'm referring to straight porn — I think things are different with gay porn but that's not the point of this post.

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My lyrics get used for Homosexual Law Reform anniversary and the tragedy of Orlando

Posted by Philip on 13 June 2016, 3:26 pm in , , , , , , ,

Today I learnt that composer Gareth Farr has used one of my poems, 'During these Days', in his commission for Wellington's Glamaphones choir. He also used a poem from Brent Coutts, "Naming Ourselves".

Gareth has even chosen to name his piece "During these Days" — how chuffed am I? I'm told the choir has been rehearsing it and it is sounding wonderful.

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Rape culture — how do we address it and end it?

Posted by Philip on 8 June 2016, 1:33 pm in , , , , , ,

Trigger warning: this post contains challenging references to rape and sexual violence.

I was moved by Madeleine Holden's piece in The Spinoff today, about Brock Turner, the 19- (now 20-) year-old Stanford student athlete sentenced to six months imprisonment after, in January last year, he raped an unconscious woman behind a dumpster. It's a passionate bit of writing, angry actually and, rightfully so, Holden asks the question, "What culture raised Turner to become a rapist?"

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Sexuality and Diversity – Bending Rules and Breaking Duals | 7th Sexual Dysfunction Conference

Posted by Philip on 15 May 2016, 11:44 am in , , , , ,

Yesterday I presented at the 7th Multidisciplinary Sexual Dysfunction Conference, somewhat misnamed due to history — as organiser Nic Beets explained, it's become a lot less medicalised over the years. Now it attracts GPs, physiotherapists, counsellors, psychotherapists, sex therapists, sexual health promoters among others. This post summarises my sessions and includes points I neglected to cover.

By chance (or perhaps design on the part of the organisers) I spoke after listening to a presentation by Dr Russell Shuttleworth, Senior Lecturer at Deakin University, followed by a Q&A with Dr George Taleporos, Researcher, also at Deakin University, with whom I've been acquainted for nearly two decades. Their topic was Facilitated Sex for Adults with Disabilities. I pointed out the irony that George and I had been having this conversation for those 15-20 years and, from their presentation, it seems not much has changed.

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A mash-up about Blogging Against Disablism Day #BADD2016

Posted on 1 May 2016, 12:24 pm in , , , , , , ,

Blogging Against Disablism Day, May 1st 2016

1 May is the eleventh annual Blogging Against Disablism Day. "This is the day where all around the world, disabled and non-disabled people blog about their experiences, observations and thoughts about disability discrimination (known as disablism or ableism). In this way, we hope to raise awareness of inequality, promote equality and celebrate the progress we've made," says the official site.

I've blogged a couple of times. This year I'm doing a mash-up of those two posts because they still represent my views.

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Gender neutral education recommendations a huge step forward

Posted by Philip on 1 June 2015, 11:13 am in , , , , , , , , , , ,

The Ministry of Education's new curriculum guidelines released last week, aimed at improving sex education and diversity for students, seem almost too good to be true. Actually they are, because they are not mandatory.

Recommendations for non-gendered uniforms, same-sex partners at school balls, reviewing toilet spaces and making sport less gender-specific are no-brainers in our day and age — actually they've been no-brainers for decades.

These guidelines show surprisingly courageous change leadership from the Ministry. But there's always some right-wing plonker, who purports to represent the moral majority, ready to go into bat for the status quo (as I posted about recently).

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RainbowYOUTH turns 25

Posted by Philip on 19 November 2014, 8:25 pm in , , , , , , , , , , , ,

RainbowYOUTH logo with birthday hatUnfortunately I was unable unable to attend tonight's 25th reunion of RainbowYOUTH, "a charitable organisation providing support, information, advocacy and education for queer and trans* young people (aged between 13 and 28), their friends and Whānau, and those who work with queer and trans* youth."

Having had the honour of being their patron for the last few years I asked for a few words to be read on my behalf.  

Kia ora koutou. Happy 25th birthday RainbowYOUTH. My apologies for not being able to be here in person to address you this evening.

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The sport of coming out

Posted by Philip on 15 July 2014, 6:56 am in , , , , , , , ,

Australian swimmer Ian Thorpe is the latest in a long line of sports "stars" to come out as gay in an interview with celebrity interviewer Sir Michael Parkinson. It seems to be a sport in itself these days: to play professional sport and reveal that you're gay.

Or perhaps a better sport might be to place bets on who will be next. David Beckham? Too good to be true.

But the real question — or the bigger conversation we're not having — is about the "casual homophobia", as Kath and Kim actor and out lesbian comedian Magda Szubanski puts it, in sport that stops people like Thorpe coming out — or never having to "go in" in the first place.

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Changing direction

Posted by Philip on 6 July 2014, 12:50 pm in , , , , , , , , , ,

As of tomorrow, 7 July, I'll be employed for the first time in twelve years. In early May I applied for the 0.6FTE role of Communications Officer at the NZ AIDS Foundation, was offered, to my surprise, an interview in early June and, to my greater surprise, the job in mid-June.

My surprise was two-fold. Firstly, while I've had heaps of experience in communications I've had no formal training. Secondly, I'm fairly long in the tooth to be taking up an entry-level position. So while I felt confident to fulfil the role, I didn't think I'd fit the role profile.

I obviously did though. And that leads to another aspect of my surprise, which is strongly linked to trust. At the beginning of the year I decided to let myself be guided towards where I was needed. I thought it would come in the form of a new client, but it manifested in a completely unexpected way. Not only a completely different content area, but a different role (employment not consultant) and, actually, a whole different lifestyle (I'll be working at the Foundation's offices).

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Blogging against blogging against disablism

Posted by Philip on 1 May 2014, 1:26 pm in , , , , , ,

Blogging Against Disablism Day logoMay 1 is Blogging Against Disablism Day. You probably didn't know that. I remember hearing about it years ago but had forgotten until I saw a tweet about it.

The problem with blogging against disablism is that "disablism" is the wrong term. We should be blogging against ablism. Ablism is the preference for or normative belief that being able is better or superior than not being able, in the same way that heterosexism is the preference for or normative belief that being heterosexual is better or superior than not being heterosexual.

So blogging against disablism is like blogging against homosexism.

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